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Gentleman against the princess
Posted By: vkovko
Category: Relationship Issue
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You go on a date, you are about to give her a ride in your car, you are a good old fashion gentlemen and open the car's door for her. She say thanks and seats. You close her door. At least she should attempt to open the door for your from the inside. If she just seat and don't even attempt to recoprocate I won't be a gentlement next time
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Whatta Whining Wheenie!
Posted By: Yeah-right
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You aren't an old-fashioned gentleman. You're a newfangled manipulator pretending to be a gentlemen. That's why you're wrong from the start.
Maybe in the 1960s and before, women were able to reach over and unlock your door for you. In today's car's (unless you drive a Whining Weeniemobile), bucket seats, center consoles, seat and lapbelts make it a little difficult unless one is a contortionist. Why don't you just use the remote on your keyring?
I don't know about you, but when one of my ex's would do that, she'd have such a time trying to get the door lock up, I could have unlocked and locked it with a key 2-3 times.
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"THANKS" IS ENOUGH FOR A GENTLEMAN
Posted By: tuacaca
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As stated already, IF your intention is true chivalry, you shouldn't expect anything!!!
Unless it's dangerously cold out, or we're in a big hurry, I may not try opening a door from the inside for a man who I thought was trying to be chivalrous. Reasons:
A. I may not be familiar with how his vehicle locks work.
B. It may be an akward reach (possibly damaging garments).
C. it could cancel out, in one's mind, efforts to provide chivalry.
Relax, and if it bothers you, sit your ass in the car first and unlock the doors for passengers from inside yourself. Problem solved. There's no rule saying passengers should open the doors for you if you've opened them for them.
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Nice girls usually correspond
Posted By: susan
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I agree, it is a good maner to be appreciative of a good gesture by reciprocating with the same gesture. I do it for every guy that does it for me (not many unfortunately). If she does not then you have more info of the person you are dating.
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Mr. Nutty Balls
Posted By: Mr. Nutty Balls
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Are you kidding me? Grow up, be a man, and for Christ's sake, quit expecting someone to do something for you everytime you give to them.
If you do things so people will "owe" you, you're going to have a very disappointing existence, buddy...
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Heh..
Posted By: Deez eez no your cheekun'
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Do vhat I do vhen you 'ave quarrel--geev a punch in de babymaker.
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grow up
Posted By: LB
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You sound a bit selfish and petty if you always expect someone to do something for you every time you do anything considerate. And opening a car door is not a grand gesture. You are certainly not on the sort list (or even a long list) for the Nobel Peace Prize.
I'm a woman and I open doors for men or women... it's called having manners, class and good breeding.
It's a care door. Get over it.
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Boys will be Boys
Posted By: elmo
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Opening a door for a girl doesn't make a gentlemen. Opening a door for a girl AND not expecting something in return does make a gentlemen. Why? Because he is doing it to be kind to her, and that's all.
For a guy to sit there and pout when the girl doesn't reach over to unlock his door in return - that's just the guy acting like a 2 year old boy. And then he has to go on to call her a "princess"? Well, that's just immature. Get over it!
However, it's a whole different story if she EXPECTED you to open the door for her, and pouts when you don't. Now, that's acting like a princess.
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Generosity is without Reciprocation, but hey, it goes along way...
Posted By: SomethingClever
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I typically open doors for girls and they seem to like it. Almost all of them will reciprocate by opening my door. I don't "expect" it but it certainly is a nice gesture.
Whats interesting is in Men are From Mars, Women are from Venus, a book every guy should read just to keep in mind, the author states that a guy should open the door for a woman he is on a date with to make her feel like she is being taken care of...He goes on to say that while a woman feels that she should give back in the same manner she has received (i.e. by opening the mans door), she should NOT do this. His explanation is pretty interesting and I can follow his logic. I suggest reading the book for the full details.
It certainly feels like she should open the door but ultimately, there are many other indicators to watch out for if you are dating a princess (negative connotation)!
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Ever had a break stick you in the Breast?
Posted By: me
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Think about it... you are in amoured with the man for the sweetness of the gesture, it is kind and sweet, not expected, no matter how many times it is done. So you want to show appreciation you thank him kindly, if you know him well you may say "Thank you darling" or "Thank you lover". But it is close to impossible to lean over and get a break stick poking you in the chest. Is pain really the memory you want? Kindness should be given, without expectation.
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I agree
Posted By: Mark
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if she does not even try to open the door then she is not a keeper.
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What you opened the door for her.......?
Posted By: PAPA BEAR
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Unfortunately, the time it takes for her to open your door is not enough time for her to get over her surprise and comfusion. This is not a normal every day occurrence . She has probably already fallen in LOVE over such chivalry.
Chivalry must be expressed without strings. Momma Bear opens the jar of honey for me all the time but doesn't expect it in returny. If this kind of equality is something that you must have, as you get to know this female person, you should ask her to open the door for you. When you start to dwell on expectations..well, that is a whole different ball of wax IE complicated.
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Yup
Posted By: nona
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Ever Watch A Bronx Tail?
Sonny: Alright, listen to me. You pull up right where she lives, right? Before you get outta the car, you lock both doors. Then, get outta the car, you walk over to her. You bring her over to the car. Dig out the key, put it in the lock and open the door for her. Then you let her get in. Then you close the door. Then you walk around the back of the car and look through the rear window. If she doesn't reach over and lift up that button so that you can get in: dump her.
Calogero 'C' Anello: Just like that?
Sonny: Listen to me, kid. If she doesn't reach over and lift up that button so that you can get in, that means she's a selfish broad and all you're seeing is the tip of the iceberg. You dump her and you dump her fast.
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Gentleman against the princess
Posted By: Didi
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i didn't think it was a big deal for women not open the door inside.
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