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Should a guy pay for his date?
Posted By: Didi
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ok this guy asked me out on the first date, he did not even offer to pay , what a cheeseball!
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Funny girl...
Posted By: BadMofo
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These days women actually make more money than men now, graduate college more often, and are in higher positions of work. Yet they still expect men to foot the bill? Pfft.
You wanted equal rights, and not only did you get them, but the world is now imbalanced in favour of the females.
Men have been slaves to women for years. It's time for some reparations.
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What a jerk!
Posted By: Yeah-right
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Even in this day,
They who ask,
Are they who should expect to pay.
(Unless the date is a complete idiot before even ordering, or I stand up to leave - whichever comes first.)
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Fair Rule?
Posted By: DBB
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You should never expect anyone to pay your way.
While a rule that "whoever asks should pay" sounds like a fair one, it isn't when you consider that it is almost always going to be the guy who is expected to do the asking for a first date. And so if most first dates don't lead to second dates, that puts most of the economic onus on the guy most of the time.
Which isn't fair.
That said - If I asked someone out, I'd be more than happy to pay, and likely would unless she insisted on paying herself. I just would consider it rude if it were expected that I HAD to.
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Would you care if you were really into him?
Posted By: Eli
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I agree that the person who asks should pay. Sticking you with the bill sends the signal that he's uninterested and spineless. I hope you at least called him out on it.
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paying
Posted By: Brett
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Yeah he should pay, but only if you put out.
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Right
Posted By: rt
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The proper etiquette is that whoever does the asking out should pay for the date.
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Well Most of the time yes BUT
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same reasons as the poster above:
Hey, there is a recession going on and everyone needs to be conscious of who they spend money for. I think that in general, a first date should be paid for by the guy, BUT the women should offer to pay her portion or cover the tip. This is just a considerate thing to do. Personally, I think if you ask a girl out on a first date, you should have the money to pay for her. But, to the women who think that guys are cheap if they don't pay for their date...think about it this way...women tend to get in free at most clubs/bars and they can usually get some sucker to buy them a drink while they are there. I've heard women say this over and over again and to put it bluntly "If a guy is dumb enough to buy me a drink, I'm smart enough to take it." Women know this and use this to their advantage.
Then if you take into account that a guy may go on multiple dates with multiple women, some of these dates pan out and others don't. That really starts to add up.
There are always exceptions too. If the guy is a high powered lawyer, and the woman is in graduate school, pursuing Ph.D, etc., then I think maybe paying for her is justified.
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ugh some men make me sick
Posted By: cheesypoof!
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I think if the guy is the one to ask YOU out that he SHOULD pay. Just like if a girl asks a guy out then SHE should be the one to pay. I also so that just because a guy asks me out doesn't mean I should expect him to pay for everything all night. I think its only fair for me to at least offer to pay some portion, and if he refuses then so be it, I at least get the tip.
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De crate.
Posted By: Deez eez no your cheekun'
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I vould first put heem een heez crate. You must first geet heem een a calm, submeeesive state. Eef he no behave, you poke heem een de neck and say, "Tssssst!"
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What do we do if it's two guys?
Posted By: Pay for yourself
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But what do you do if it's two guys then how do we know who should pay?
You should always pay for yourself. Then nothing is expected of you! If you let the guy pay isn't that kind of whoring yourself? hmm....?
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Yup
Posted By: Your Dad
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You know, all that equal rights stuff is no excuse for a man to conduct himself like anything less than a man. Paying for a date isn't about rights, it's about courtesy and etiquette. A man pays for the date or at least makes every effort to, that's just the way it is. Boys who don't want to pay are just being cheapskates and trying to use any excuse they can to justify it.
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Typically Yes, but a woman should offer to pay her portion
Posted By: SomethingClever
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Hey, there is a recession going on and everyone needs to be conscious of who they spend money for. I think that in general, a first date should be paid for by the guy, BUT the women should offer to pay her portion or cover the tip. This is just a considerate thing to do. Personally, I think if you ask a girl out on a first date, you should have the money to pay for her. But, to the women who think that guys are cheap if they don't pay for their date...think about it this way...women tend to get in free at most clubs/bars and they can usually get some sucker to buy them a drink while they are there. I've heard women say this over and over again and to put it bluntly "If a guy is dumb enough to buy me a drink, I'm smart enough to take it." Women know this and use this to their advantage.
Then if you take into account that a guy may go on multiple dates with multiple women, some of these dates pan out and others don't. That really starts to add up.
There are always exceptions too. If the guy is a high powered lawyer, and the woman is in graduate school, pursuing Ph.D, etc., then I think maybe paying for her is justified.
What do you guys think?
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Yep.
Posted By: NY
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Come on, some things shouldn't change. Unless... it stops being a man's world where men routinely make more than women in the same fields and jobs. Where women in the movies are 20 years younger than their actor counterparts and that is always seen as "okay" and "plausible" whereareas, the reality is, we all want younger, hotter-even women, which shows how much it's a Man's world.. And of course Men in movies almost always go for the youngest, hottest women, even when you think about it, can be their daughters.
It's a man's world, they still have an edge over women, no matter what. You don't balance out the scales by throwing both parties (with one having an unfair advantage) to the same challenges and expect both to thrive equally. You give more benefits to the disenfranchised party to even out the scales so they'd at least have a fighting chance.
So yes, unless this world is no longer sexist in ANY way whatsoever and women aren't first and foremost judged by their looks, hair, skin, nails, body shape etc. (and maintaining these things cost money, and men's expenses for THEIR looks will NEVER compare, nor are even men judged as harshly for their appearance/youth etc. and never will be, as women are) then I guess going "dutch" or paying is acceptable for women.
Otherwise women paying for men is a bunch of crock if it's a romantic date. I pay for guy friends PLENTY. But dates?? With all the benefits a man reaps by default, JUST for being born a man, a woman should be able to not pay to be in the (romantic) company of said man. Gold diggers are hideous beings that should just die, but dates?
Come on, a dude should just pay. If he can't afford to do so, he really should not be dating. You don't have to go to expensive places, but at least pay for your dates.
I don't need a man with a lot of money buying me expensive ANYTHING or going expensive anywhere.... I prefer a cheap fun date-even hot dogs and a walk in the park.
HOwever, if a guy won't even want to pay, SEEING that a girl is obviously NOT a gold digger, he's just cheap and immature.
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No way
Posted By: Sal
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Come on woman you wanted equal rights now you got them. Pay for your food.
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I agree
Posted By: Mark
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A) if the guy asked you out he should pay.
B) A guy should always offer at least.
But if the date is bad some times I guess make a run for it LOL
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this time
Posted By: ...
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in this case, you're right, he should have paid. cuz the person who does the asking, does the paying. he asked you out - he should pay. if you asked him out, you can pay or he can cut in and offer to pay.
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