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A lady friend
Posted By: Ronny G
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I have a lady friend that I am interested in. Her and I have been chatting online for a few weeks now and we were having trouble figuring out something to do. I suggested hanging out at parks which she liked except she hates the parks in her area. However she likes the park near my house. The one problem here is she lives a good 40 minutes away and since she doesn't drive and is "too broke" to take the damn train it would be unreasonable for me to have to drive all the way to her house and then all the way back to the park near my house. I refuse to make multiple trips for a girl I haven't met yet. I suggested catching a movie, but she didn't like that idea because we can't really get to know each other in that kind of setting. So I've thought long and hard of ideas of places for her and I to go to. And I remembered how one of my friends posted an "event" to a place (which I won't name) that's really fun and it's free. The only problem is I don't want to even tell her about that "event" because I'm sick and tired of all the competitive bullshit that goes on at the "events". It's happened to me in the past, I invite a girl I like to an "event" and everyone hits on her and it pisses me off cuz there isn't a damn thing I can do without looking like some psycho possessive control freak loser. So I think I am right in not inviting her to come with me to the "event". What do ya'll think?
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Posted By: agentmom
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Something else is going on here. If she doesnt have a card and can afford a train-go to a starbucks/panera/cariboiu cafe-library...surely there are some near her. Way better than a park -unless it is a booty call
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Relax
Posted By: Ishy
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When people hit on your girl, relax and realize it's because she's hot, take it as a compliment. If she loves you, she won't mess around and if she does mess around, then you know she's not worth your time. Don't waste your life being jealous. It makes you seem desperate and possessive and that's a huge turn off.
As far as where to meet, take her to a quiet cafe or coffee house and have a cup of coffee or tea of hot chocolate or whatever. It's relaxed enough that you can dress casual and feel a lot more casual than on an actual date. You'll feel more confortable talking and won't be so distracted. It's also a lot cheaper.
Btw, think of why she's broke. She might be lazy, irresponsible or a golddigger - or she may just be down on her luck which is ok. The reason and what she is trying to do about fixing her finances will tell you a lot about her personality and whether she's worth your time.
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a lady friend
Posted By: brendasis
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hay friend, sounds like you want to be ride of her, is she worth the trouble, when you haven't even been together yet. dump her, theres more out there.
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Just
Posted By: WastedWit
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Just take her to bed dude.
To hell with the park or your secret event.
And quit being so jealous.
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you always have options
Posted By: od
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So, you got two issues, I guess?
1. park or no park
-if the drive is too long, you should move onto someone else, looks like you're already making up excuses NOT to see her; or, if you actually DO wanna see her, think harder about other things to do together (galleries, coffee, tea, running, biking, hiking)
2. other guys hitting on her
-if she's attracted to you, it won't matter what other guys do; if you haven't had enough time with her to develop attraction, don't take her to the event...yet.
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What the Fuck is an "Event"?
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If your still dating in a month, run away and don't be a friend.
Posted By: Ladies Man
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Take her to the park, once or twice.
Then go out one night with her and her friends.
Find a picture of her mom.
You should know if you really like her by now.
If she falls for any of your friends, her loss.
I gave up trusting friends with girls, when my ex
told me my roomates told her I was gay and not
to spend time with me. When I was hitting on her friend,
she got jellous and did not leave my side for 2 months.
2 girls later, I got married and had 3 kids.
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dude
Posted By: Mark
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if you have confidence you will be set. Just have trust in your self and she will not be looking at other dudes.
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Go fuck yourself Patton
Posted By: Ronny G
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Go to hell Patton. I just wants peoples input without smart-ass remarks. I can't help it that it bothers me when I bring a girl I like to an event and guys hit on her. At least I show restraint by not being the asshole who says to all the guys "you stay away from her". Calling me a selfish %$#%$^ pretty much negates any credibility (if any) you have. And from looking at the attendees list I know of one guy thats going that has a history of doing that. He actually ended up dating a girl (will call her Shelly) not too long after I was dating her. And the ironic thing was HE actually told someone else off for flirting with Shelly. That's pretty fucked up. I NEVER would do such a thing.
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get some confidence
Posted By: Patton
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dont be a selfish #$%!@#$. if she is really into you, and truly wants to get to know you, then she'll give all her attention to you. and who is to say that this event there will be guys who are trying to hit on her... every event is different. give it a chance... its a good way to test her out and see how she is around big groups of people and other fishers.
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