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Here's the deal
Posted By: Male/49
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Here's the deal....you may be wet when you start, but if you have a long session and you dry up a bit, you seriously need something for lubrication....especially if he is wearing a condom...a dry vagina can be PAINFUL as sin, especially with a condom on. Forget that is "feels" better...it fvcking HURTS us....
If you are opposed to the spit (and that is hardly a decent form of lubrication), then buy some KY or astro glide...
Actually, that is HARDLY your responsibility Your man really should know better anyway and have some....It is an essential item he should be providing to you in the bedroom, along with the condoms....and some other devices for you.....
I always say, it is the woman's responsibility to provide consent, and the man's to provide EVERYTHING else in the bedroom...
Male/49
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WELL>>>>>>>>>>>>
Posted By: Ms X
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It's OK to swap saliva via tongue kiss, him releasing it during cunnilingus, or licking your naughty bits, but not mouth to hand to clitoris, Well 'i can and can't dig it. However what if he did it respectably- like lick three fingers with ample saliva, then stroke. Maybe he can just eat you out mire to "make it Wetter". personally I like it I love watching my mans penis pull put my vagina and having him release a nice wetness from his mouth drip slowly down and land on my clit and run down and land on his penis and watch it go in stirring up my cream and looking at all the milkiness on his base slide in and out. Its so sensuous.
-and it's not like he hocks a luge he just releases it ever so gently. UMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM
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no spit
Posted By: lu ee
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The thought of some girl even spitting on my penis even makes me sick.Don't spit!!
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people these days
Posted By: anon
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as far as I can see...the whole spitting thing is a total porn trend
same as teabagging, gagging, slapping with the penis, facials..
maybe i'm wrong...but good luck in hooking up with a total chimp!
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gross
Posted By: agentmom
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If it bothers you -he should stop....and i like all the other responses...he can also maybe lick a finger....and then put it down there....spitng gross
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We guys
Posted By: Johnny
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We guys feel a different kind of pleasure. But if it bothers you then you guys have to talk about it. But you known what, if that bothers you during sex what else bothers you..come on.
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from a girl
Posted By: Alias
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I am a girl and would not find it gross at all. A lover's saliva is all good. However I am not you. If you find it gross and have told him so then he should respect your wishes.
I highly recommend you pick up some Astroglide lubrication. He can use it as he likes, and you should not find it gross = win win for all. Also, its lubrication lasts longer than saliva.
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from a girl
Posted By: Alias
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I am a girl and would not find it gross at all. A lover's saliva is all good. However I am not you. If you find it gross and have told him so then he should respect your wishes.
I highly recommend you pick up some Astroglide lubrication. He can use it as he likes, and you should not find it gross = win win for all. Also, its lubrication lasts longer than saliva.
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Spit is counter productive
Posted By: Ishy
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Spit is actually counter productive as it tends to dry up or increase friction by diluting the natural juices, that are designed to reduce friction. Try some store bought lubrication. Some of that warming stuff is pretty awesome.
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yes
Posted By: grumpy
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i dont do it
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Can you really trust.....
Posted By: PaPa Bear
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a partner that does not respect your request?
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Appalling
Posted By: Expat
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It's not the swapping of spit, it's the context. It's a disrespectful, "porny" thing to do and, moreso, you have asked him not to do it. Full stop. Anyone who ignores a partner's discomfort in bed is a jerk.
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Lol....lol....still lol....
Posted By: WastedWit
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at least he's not spitting in your face....or is he?
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Wrong, wrong, wrong
Posted By: Spit Fan
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Jenna Jameson say, "Spit is the best lubricant." Plus it does help with the initial penetration.
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If you find it disgusting
Posted By: M
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If you find it disgusting, then he's being a real jerk. If lube is really a problem, there are other things to use. You're not being at all unreasonable.
Just out of curiosity, do you let him go down on you before intercourse? That has the same effect, of course.
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be tactful
Posted By: od
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Does he ever go down on you? If so, he's already exposed you to his spit. If it's the act of him spitting in his hand then rubbing his penis grosses you out, talk to him about it BEFORE sex, like over dinner or something.
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Some thoughts....
Posted By: Matt
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First, you say that there is an "abundance of natural juices down there." It may be that you feel wet and excited prior to penetration, but your juices may not be as abundant as you believe or they may not have worked their way down to your entrance. If your fella doesn't finger, rub or lick you down below prior to penetration, then your moisture, while growing, may still be locked up behind your labia. If you have a particularly tight vagina then this is more likely. Your mate may feel that a little lube, in the way of saliva, is just the ticket to get things started with that first penetration. If he isn't making sure things are well lubricated before trying to stuff his junk into you, i.e foreplay, and you're alright with this lack of foreplay, then one trick might be to reach down and put him inside you yourself. It's sexy and it will show him that there is no need for him to use spit. If the issue is more with your wetness not fully making it to your labia, then you may want to reach down there on your own before he tries to penetrate you and use a finger or two to "spread" your moisture around the outside of your vagina, this will make it much easier for him to slip in.
A second thought... Your man may be watching a great deal of porn. In recent years the "spit" trick has found it's way into porn quite a bit and just like the shaved vagina, deep throating and other popular sexual tastes, the spitting has found it's way into our bedrooms. If you find the act particularly distasteful then you need to voice this to your mate and let him know that under no circumstances do you find that act sexy or a turn-on, but in fact quite the opposite. You should however consider some sort of compromise. Here are a couple techniques that you both may enjoy...
• Before penetration tell your partner how wet you are for him. Take his hand and put it between your legs encouraging him to feel your wetness.
• Using the same above suggestion regarding how wet you are for him, reach down between your legs and use your fingers, coating them with your juices. Once they are nice and wet reach out and rub then along your partners penis making him slick and ready to slide in.
• If him rubbing his own spit on his penis grosses you out, then try using your own. He may find it very arousing to see you seductively lick your own hand before rubbing the moisture on his member.
• If your partner insists on some lubrication then keep a bottle of KY Liquid or Astroglide handy, they are both water soluble and a little bit goes a long way.
Hope this helps. I'd be interested in some feedback. Best of luck.
Matt
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It's about mutual respect
Posted By: bub
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He should respect that you don't want to be spat on (if for no other reason it only benefits him if you're more into it and feel comfortable). If he wants you wetter then he should just go down on you - way sexier than spitting.
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raised right
Posted By: bob
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Manners dictate no spitting. If it bothers you he should respect that.
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Do you kiss the guy?
Posted By: LittleGirl
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Do you kiss the guy? I mean if so then you are sharing spit already no?
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wrong
Posted By: spooky47
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its only spit , you are sharing way more than that , and it cant hurt
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I do not see anything wrong with it.
Posted By: Jill
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I think it can help no?
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blah blah
Posted By: a guy
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silly
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Spit!
Posted By: Bobbo
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Don't be such a prude. Try at least twice and if you don't like it, then don't ever do it anymore.
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Looking for wetness
Posted By: SpitInCaseOfEmergency
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I am a guy, but I just do it when the area is too dry. If you are really lubricated there is not reason to do so.
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I must admit
Posted By: Mark
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I like it. But i am a guy.
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