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Wife cheating trying to work things out
Posted By: Tom
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my wife had been cheating on me for almost two months. He was a friend. They would talk after i went to sleep and eventually started doing sexual things. It got to where they were talking and emailing one another without my knowledge. i caught them in some sexual acts and ended the friendship immediately. So we began to repair our relationship and all seemed to go well. Then I had a gut feeling that things were still not right. I began to try and figure out her password to see if they still had something going on. Well whaam, i got in. I found out that they hadnt missed a beat. they were still talking. they even went as far as to start meeting somewhere. Planning it. I called her work and asked her what she had planned after her drs. appt.the next day?? she asked me what i meant and i replied with where their favorite spot is that they like to meet. she was very suprised. she replied with please dont do anything, i will be home soon. well, we have been able to discuss it and we still are going to try and work it out. so far things seem to be going well. I really hope so, cause I really love her...thank you for listening.
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Cheating Wife
Posted By: mom 1220
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Went through the same thing years ago. He was messing around and I found out. We did the counseling, talking, it seems everything under the sun. Things were okay for awhile. Exactly how long I have no idea, cause it started again, then again, then I said "Get your shit out". He begged, cried, promised, but I leaned.... and get this.... through the shrink.... that the chances of it happening again far outweighed it not. You see once they learn they can get away with it, they will. I person can change and not cheat, but that change is more likely to come about with someone else.
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DUMP her.
Posted By: Yeah-right
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Once a cheater, always a cheater. Especially a repeat cheater.
Counseling might only help her to better conceal it the next time and no amount of counseling is going to revive a dead relationship.
I agree with moving on because you'll never be able to fully trust her again.
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Get Professional Help
Posted By: GotRidOfHim
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You & your wife will not solve this by yourselves. Get professional help. Even so, marriage counseling does not work more often than it does work. Well, perhaps it works in the sense that one or both of the couple decide that the marriage can't be saved, and the professional helps them realize that.
I divorced my husband of 35 years. During Year # 34, I discovered he was having an affair with his first love/lover from high school & college. He promised he would end the affair. A year later, I discovered they never ended the affair. At that point he told me that he was never able to talk to me (why would he marry someone he felt he couldn't talk to?) and that the only reason he married me was that she had broken up with him (twice) and married someone else. That made me feel as if our entire marriage had been a sham.
Keep in mind that your wife's cheating indicates there is something wrong with HER, NOT YOU. She needs to admit that she has a problem in order to fix it. And if she's not willing to fix it (she certainly wasn't after she was caught the first time), there is nothing you can do about it except take care of yourself.
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Get out...
Posted By: Ishy
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They continued after you discovered it and while you were working on fixing the relationship (you were working on it, not her, she was working on screwing it up further). If she loved you so much that the thought of losing you was unbearable, the affair would have ended right then and there. If you insist on trying to work it out, you need to get into marriage councelling. This is just something talking can't fix, you need the aid of a professional.
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Posted By: adas
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move on, and get out of it as soon as you can. you deserver someone better
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MOVE ON
Posted By: tuacaca
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I've been in a VERY similar situation, so I know your pain.
It took me a long time to realize that moving on was the right choice (and I should have done it earlier).
If she doesn't have enough respect for you, and your relationship, to be honest....you're probably just being used, and she deserves to be kicked (hard) to the curb.
I know it's harder to do than say. Good luck. Liars SUCK!
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wife cheating
Posted By: brendasis
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if she did it once how can u be sure ever again, get out of it before she breaks your heart.
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That sucks
Posted By: WastedWit
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If it were me, she'd have been out the door right behind the frienship!!!
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Not good
Posted By: Johny
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If she is doing that dog its time to let her be and move the hell on
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I think you need to call it quits
Posted By: Janet
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Time to move on. Nothing left for you.
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