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Mothers Day - who pays
Posted By: Out of Town Son
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Mom lives a few hours away, drove up to see her for the Mothers Day weekend. Planned brunch with just the tight family, Mom, my brother, and the dude she was dating.(Dad passed away a few years ago) Bill came - he insisted he pay. I don't get offended easily but I was. It's mothers day. I am her Son. If my brother want'd to pay, sure. But this dating dude? Insisting went back and forth, me, him, etc.. One more thing, mind you, he pays for everything for her, from dinner to cell phone to Broadway shows. Not saying thats right, just makes sense to add.
Happy Mothers Day Mom
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Maybe he's just a nice guy.
Posted By: Yeah-right
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I can see where you are coming from, but could it be that he knows you had a long drive not just up to their area, but then back home for you, not to mention gas expense, etc., and he figured this was kind of a compensation for that time and travel?
I also agree that it's about spending time with your mom and not who "the bigger man" is in picking up the tab. That has always been one of the dumbest arguments to have to endure. If someone wants to pick up the tab, be my guest. I won't fight it! If they were just doing it to look good, then the first time would cure them of that. If they were actually trying to fit in and be a part of things, well, the money you didn't use to pay for dinner might be used to get your mom a little unexpected gift of some kind, couldn't it? Heck, you could even get her a gift certificate for a private meal and slip it to her just before you leave to return home.
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Who care who pays
Posted By: Me
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Who cares who pays, the meal was about spending time with your mother! Paying the bill is not what says I love you, it's your presence. He is showing the family that he is willing to care for everyone and accept you all as his own. This is a very noble act. If he hadn't paid would you have been angry he didn't pay his own way? I have a feeling that you are not accepting him as part of your mothers life. You need to get over your own insecurities and get to know him. He apparentely cares deeply for your mother and it sounds like you all need to heal from something that has hurt you about your fathers passing. She can not stay a single widow forever because it makes you uncomfortable; so stop being so selfish.
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take your ego out of it
Posted By: memyselfandi
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What's the dude's phone number, I want to date him.
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not a big deal
Posted By: LB
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He's being nice and cares about your mom. Be thankful he isn't mooching off of her.
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ONE TOO MANY
Posted By: PAPA BEAR
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I'm thinking that Dating Guy should have skipped this brunch. It would not be inappropriate to tell youR mother that Mothers Day should be her childrens day with her.
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Different Strokes For Different Folks
Posted By: Henrietta
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Some people make up for insecurities by over-paying for things and it sounds like this guy is the same way. Maybe he shouldn't pay, but it is up to you to let him know. He probably though he was doing the right thing by offering so next time tell him ahead of time the importance or give the waiter your credit card before the meal starts. Everyone's families have different codes of conduct. I doubt he was trying to step on your toes probably just trying to prove to you and your brother that he can take care of your mom.
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Let him pay
Posted By: Johnson
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her is just trying to be nice and fit in.
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